Alright ladies and gents, doggies and kitties, martians and mermen - I need some advice. Or maybe I should say, I need your opinions.
Whatever you want to call it - I am all about taking today and not about giving.
Mother Theresa would be so proud.
Anyway - Dan and I are in the process of designing our wedding invitations and for whatever reason, I have found this to be the biggest planning struggle thus far. Apparently when I hear the words "wedding invitation," all creativity and original ideas that I could ever be possible of having in my life decide to take a permanent vacation in Bora Bora with no access to cell phones or email. Bleh - ideas...what little jerks they can be sometimes.
I was so frustrated that I took my woes to the most logical place I could think of: my Facebook status update. I believe I wrote something like "Does anyone know where I can get invitations designed that won't cost me $1,000???" Within hours a lovely lady that we know who has a background in graphic design offered to design the invitations for us as she is trying to build up her portfolio again after taking time off to be with her kids.
Who ever said that social networking sites were worthless? "Not I," said the fly.
I suddenly feel as light as a feather. Well, except for my butt...and my hips...and, ugh - just forget it. Perhaps I should stick with saying I feel relieved and just call it a day.
So now the designing of the invitations has been passed on to a much more qualified participant and I am in the position to simply say "yes I like that" or "can we change this" and these are waters I much prefer to swim in. However, there is one thing that I am unclear about and this is where I need some opinions!!!
Issue of Interest: RSVP etiquette
Decision to be made: Traditional response cards or online RSVP through our website?
Here's the deal - we will be inviting many people from England and America. Because of this, we will be dealing with 2 different types of postage, mailing laws and customs. Let me break it down for you - DJ, cue the music:
Postage: we would have to pay extra to send all the invites to England from America but then, for the response cards, would have to have English stamps on them which, once you do the Dollar to Pound conversion, ends up costing almost $5/response card to send back.
Mailing laws: To mail/post something from England to America, they have to take the actual piece of mail to the post office to get a special "Air Mail" sticker on it. This means special trips to the post office for everyone, which makes me feel kinda bad.
Customs: In England, people purchase their own response card and send to the couple whereas here in the US, the couple sends one along with the invite. So either way, we would be confusing one set of invitees and we would like to simplify as much as possible.
Due to these 3 main reasons, we are thinking that online RSVP may be the way to go. People would simply go to our site, type in their name and either click a 'yes' button or a 'no' button and that would be it. Our aversion to this would be the people who may struggle a bit with computers, but then perhaps other family members could help them? I just don't know and I seem to change my opinion about every 3.78 seconds - so that is where you come in.
Is an online RSVP tacky or just a step in the right direction in this ever-expanding technological and eco-friendly world? How would you feel if you got a wedding invite asking you to RSVP online? I am really open to any and all opinions on this and I thank you in advance for your time :)
I am sure I could have just written this post like this: What do you think about online RSVP? and left it at that, but verbosity seems to always get the best of me.