Monday, August 3, 2009

Countdown to Happiness

In exactly 20 days from today, I will be in England for 16 days with my darling fiance. By the time I get there, we will not have seen each other for 3.5 months. Ugh - that is far too long.

Dear US Immigration,

I would really appreciate if you would approve our visa soon as we miss each other terribly. Thank you for your time.

Jocelyn Stott

While I understand and appreciate the immigration process, when it is you going through it, it seems painfully slow and drawn out. You are told nothing except that they will contact when it is approved. When that will be? We have no idea.

I can tell you what I do know though - ALL about the 129-F petition for an Immigrant Fiance. Oh boy, could I go on and on about that one. I could also go on and on about how suddenly every email, every greeting card and every ticket stub of things you did together suddenly becomes more valuable than gold as the government decides if you are really a legitimate couple. Oh yes...I could go on and on...but I will stop.

It is what it is Jocelyn. Leave it at that.

In the face of such uncertainty, we are forced to try to focus on the positive. As my amazing Dan always says in his lovely English accent, "We found each other darling, and that was the most difficult part." I love him. I love him oodles and oodles. I CANNOT wait to be on that plane outta Portland en route to Birmingham, England where we will finally get to live our life together, away from skype and in real life - if even for only 16 days.

The official countdown has begun.

Sometimes it is countdowns that save me from going totally insane. Anyone who has been in a long distance relationship knows what I am talking about. They are like oxygen.

PS - I know the photo above doesn't really have anything to do with my upcoming trip, but I am still in somewhat shock that I was taken to Paris and proposed to. I mean - are you kidding me? I am a lucky, lucky lady.


  1. I know exactly what you are feeling like on two counts... I did that long distance relationship for a year and a half... and then when my husband and I were newly married, we found out that he was in fact NOT a US citizen, he was Canadian. (He didn't know because he had grown up in a border town, and his mother had had in in Canada, but raised him in the US, and he had no idea until applying for Student Aid for college. Six years later, we had dealt with immigration on all levels, had a green card, been told not to leave the US or they'd never let him back in, and finally naturalized him as a citizen! God Bless America. A person with any common sense at all could have saved us exactly six years of frustration, countless forms, documents, and fees totally up to around $2140.26. (But who's counting?)

    Again I say it, God Bless America.

    Good luck my friend, I feel your pain.

  2. So cute! You are going to have an amazing trip. My cousin's fiance just arrived from Poland...they were going through the same thing! She is finally approved and now they are getting married soon. Have a great trip!

  3. Yes, you are a lucky lucky lady and Dan is a lucky lucky lord :)

    Hang in there, this time will fly by and be over before you know it!

  4. Hey,

    Yeah we couldn't go visit his extended family in Canada (his dad) either. It was like a three year deal if I remember correctly. His family didn't understand at ALL... there are still many hard feelings on that whole side for some reason. Hopefully your man's family will be super sympathetic and understanding about it, and will just be very present in your life... on your terms.

    Oh, and the trips to the immigration offices... boy were those fun. :)

    Good luck with all this. We found a fantastic resource in our Federal Building. I think it was a Congressman's aide. She was amazing, but of course our deal was really unique, and there were some strange laws about immigration written the year my husband was born, and those were the laws the government went by- not the current laws! (so we really needed the extra help.)

  5. Long distance and immigration -- wears me out just reading about it. Hang in there. I agree with Dan, you've already done the hard part.

  6. YAY for love and marriage and wonderful proposals, and for trips that last 16 days. BOO on all the weird junk they have to process to let two people get married and be together. I did the long distance thing when John got deployed for 14 months. We had a 14 day break in the middle. The shorter stays are even harder because they come back about the time you get your bearings and figure out how to go it alone with the kids and stuff. The longer ones just make you so crazy you dont know you are anymore. We share an awesome relationship because we have been through so much I know you guys will do the same and appreciate every moment together=D

  7. Looking forwards to meeting you at the end of the month :) Fingers crossed that your visa goes through quickly and smoothly x
    p.s. love love love that photo!

  8. Sorry, I am new here. PROPOSED TO IN PARIS? You are a lucky girl!

    And he is so right! finding each other has to be the hardest part!

  9. Sigh, how sweet!!! When is the big wedding day?

  10. April 11th, 2010. I cannot wait, to say the least.

  11. I'm soooo glad and excited that you get to see him in just a short while! When is the wedding?

  12. Hi, new reader here!
    I understand exactly what you're going through, me and my fiance have just been through the same thing but for me coming to Australia. It just got approved a couple of weeks ago and I'm surprised I have any hair left after the constant pulling on it this process has caused me to. Anywho, hope you have a gorgeous stay with your husband to be, I can imagine how excited you must be!


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